With one in three of us expected to have cancer at some point in our lives, it is likely we, or someone close to us, will have the experience of sitting in a consultation room and being given devastating news. At The Mercy, we want to make sure that this news is told in the most supportive environment possible. We are building a new Cancer CARE Centre next to the Mercy Hospital that will provide a quiet safe place for patients and their families. We still have lots of work to do to make the Cancer CARE Centre a reality and we cannot do it without your help.
C for compassion
A for advice
R for re-assurance
E is for empowerment – empowering patients to deal with their illness.
Cancer CARE Centre Update
The Cancer CARE Centre will be close to the hospital and the new Outpatients Department and will provide the following benefits to cancer patients and their families:
- A safe haven for patients at the time of their initial diagnosis
- Drop-In Centre for cancer awareness and support and the potential, in time, for a Community Awareness Outreach Programme
- Survivorship programmes and psycho-oncology services
- Facilities for one-to-one counselling, patient support groups and bereavement counselling
- Relaxed atmosphere where patient-centred and patient-directed care is its goal.
How much do we still have to raise?
To date just under €1 million has been raised for the Cancer CARE Centre. In order to complete the project, we still need to raise a further €1 million. Thank you so much for your support. Together, we can give our patients and their families the support they need on their cancer journey.
Moya’s sister, Aileen, was diagnosed with terminal cancer. Here is her family’s story…
“Why not me?”
These were the incredible words of my sister Aileen, when she was diagnosed out of the blue at the age of 29 with terminal cancer. Choking back the tears, I had asked, “Why you? Why did this have to happen to you?” And that was her simple reply. “Why not me?” But then that was Aileen. She loved life. She literally had one of those smiles that lit up a room. She was just 30 when she died.That year, as she received treatment at The Mercy, the doctors and nurses didn’t just help her physically. They helped her – and our whole family – emotionally too. But it wasn’t easy.
As a family, we spent so much time together with Aileen in the Hospital. We ended up loitering in the halls, or standing at the coffee machine. I remember when we were told the chemo wasn’t working. I started to cry, but Aileen preferred positivity so we tried not to get too upset in front of her. I got up and left the room to let it all out in private. But I had nowhere to go. So I ended up crouched in the corridor with my back against the wall, with everyone walking past me and I just cried until I was able to calm down.
Every day in The Mercy, someone needs a place to go to cry, or calm down, or talk to someone, or gather their wits or learn more about what is happening. The Mercy Cancer CARE Centre will be that place. We are asking for support. Please will you say ‘Why not me?‘
Moya has written many poems since Aileen died to help her with the grief, and to remember the amazing person she was. We hope you enjoy this one…
To change a life
by Moya Muldowney
To support a life in faith alone;
building a bridge on ones’ own.
She wove a brighter destiny
between the stars, herself and me.
Her fingers cold, held my hand,
whilst we struggled to understand.
A smile unfailing on her face
held us firm in her heart’s embrace.
She fought a battle; she did fall.
We supported her through it all.
In one weak moment, we did ask,
“why was she given this task”.
Her eyes shone pure with honesty,
her voice replied, “why not me?”
In that moment, humbled by she,
my life changed; she changed me.
You can also make a donation by ringing 021 4274076 or by sending a cheque/postal order to Mercy Hospital Foundation, 26 Henry Street, Cork.